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Alternative Facts About Penises

Posted by Korey McWilliams, MA, LCPC on Feb 18, 2017 in Anxiety, Blog, Body Image, Couples Counseling, Relationships, Sex Addiction, Wellness

One would hope that living in the Information Age with virtual access to high level expertise on sexual topics would ultimately clarify fact from fiction. Unfortunately, when it comes to penis sexuality, facts often find themselves drowned out by half-truths, moral agendas, and snake oil salesmen playing on our deepest insecurities. Ah, the wild, wild, web! Hopefully, this article will help to...

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Our Relationship to the World: Anxiety

Our Relationship to the World: Anxiety “I wake up, very early, get more things done than most do in a day, have a massive panic attack (who knows what about), which is only exacerbated by the fact that I have thirty minutes to get to my own therapy session in Chicago morning LSD traffic. I say all the ‘right’ things to myself, I try to regulate my breathing, I try talking to my dog as if...

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Making Mindfulness Work for You

Making Mindfulness Work for You: A Practical Guide on How to Find Mindful Moments in Everyday Life Some people hear the term mindfulness and imagine a scenario in which a person is sitting cross-legged on a meditation stool in a softly lit room with their eyes closed, while incense is wafting through the air and ambient music hums in...

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A Sexual Health Approach to Treating Sex and Porn “Addiction”

As with any profession that claims to serve the medical or psychological needs of others, psychotherapists working with issues around sexuality, implicitly, if not explicitly, pledge to “do no harm.” The public places a fundamental trust in our training and knowledge to not lead them down a path toward further suffering, but quite the opposite. In the field of psychotherapy, this is not just...

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Learning How to Learn

Posted by Dr. Madeline William Katsoudas on Oct 13, 2016 in Center Staff, Defenses and Coping Strategies, Mindfulness, Self-Care

Learning How to Learn: Challenges do not Imply Intellectual Deficits There is a longstanding quest in education to uncover teaching methods that will facilitate learning for the greatest number of students. While wonderful teaching innovations have been made over the years, there continues to be a substantial pool of students who are excluded from these methods. These...

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When an Elderly Loved One Needs Help

What Can a Neuropsychological Evaluation Do for Your Aging Parents? Have you heard the word, “sandwich generation?” It refers to a generation of people who care for their aging parents while supporting their own children. Today, 1 of every 8 Americans aged 40 to 60 is a part of the sandwich generation. Although each case is unique and different, according to a 2009 report by AARP and...

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Exploring Depression in Families

Posted by Sayaka Machizawa on Oct 17, 2014 in Center Staff, Depression, Life Transitions, News, Relationships, Self-Care

I have been fortunate to work with a Chicago-based non-profit arts organization, Erasing the Distance, as a research consultant over the last few years. Erasing the Distance has been using the power of performance to disarm stigma, spark dialogue, educate, and promote healing surrounding issues of mental health since 2005. Their new project, Tell me What You Remember, is a premiere production...

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Women’s Leadership Lab (WLL)

Posted by Rima Imburgia on Sep 16, 2014 in Education, Life Transitions, Self-Care, Self-Esteem, Wellness

A study conducted in 2010, by Rockefeller Institute & Time reported that 29% of men versus 45% of women said they thought it would be more difficult to work for a woman than work for a man. How will we break through the glass ceiling if we keep getting in our own way? What might learning about JERC principles (jealousy, envy, rivalry, competition) do to help us succeed? How might life be...

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The Benefits of Mindfulness Meditation

Posted by Katie Crofton on Oct 28, 2013 in Center Staff

Mindfulness meditation is a topic we’re hearing more about as its benefits extend to almost anyone, ranging from war veterans suffering from PTSD to future MBA candidates striving to become better leaders. This is a fascinating area of self-improvement that’s been on the rise, largely because it is somewhat enigmatic (and also effective). How can the practice of being mindful help so many...

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The Wheel of Life

Posted by Allan Schnarr on Jul 22, 2013 in Mindfulness, Philisophy, Spirituality

This month the Center for Personal Development welcomes a guest posting from Dr. Allan Schnarr, MDiv., PhD.. _____ The surprise of the unexpected becomes the wonder of what is becomes the opportunity to influence what is coming to be. The wheel of life is the process of my own healing and growth. The wheel turns on its own. There is no predicting and controlling what is about to...

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Too Close for Comfort, but Not Close Enough

Posted by Katie Crofton on Jun 20, 2013 in Defenses and Coping Strategies, Philisophy, Relationships, Therapy

Relationships are provocative. They incite all sorts of emotional and instinctual reactions because they involve the complex interweaving of two distinct people. Relationships invariably launch the push and pull within us between a longing for closeness and a yearning for solitude. The fight or flight of intimacy is perhaps one of the most difficult elements to navigate within a relationship. We...

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Mindful Eating

Posted by Michelle Frank on Jun 13, 2013 in Body Image, Eating Disorders, Mindfulness, Self-Care

Your relationship with food can be a remarkable example of your relationship with yourself and your beliefs about the world. I once mentioned to this to a male friend with a hearty appetite and he replied, “Then I guess I really love myself.” While this was undoubtedly true, what he didn’t see was how he had a compulsive drive to eat everything on the plate, as if there would never be...

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When a Partner is Addicted

When our loved ones are addicted, it leaves us feeling totally helpless. Many actions we take, whether consciously or subconsciously, to better the situation can actually make it worse. How we are feeling and acting can be good indicators that there is something amiss. If you find yourself in the following dynamic, it is very possible that your partner is engaging in an addiction, and you, yes...

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Stop Talking About Philosophy and Do It

Posted by Tim Rayner on Mar 5, 2013 in Existential, Life Transitions, Philisophy

This month, the Center for Personal Development welcomes Dr. Tim Rayner of Australia (Philosophy for Change) as our featured guest blogger. Tim writes about how philosophy is meant to inform a well-lived life, and how we can use philosophy as a guide in answering the big questions of our lives. ___ ‘Empty is that philosopher’s argument by which no human suffering is treated. For just...

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The Next Step

Posted by Mary Collins on Feb 15, 2013 in Education, Life Transitions, Stress, Wellness

Graduating from college is a huge accomplishment. You breathe a sigh of relief as you are ushered out of school with the promise of the world being your oyster. Once the realization of finished classes finally sets in, the excitement may start to mix with anxiety. There are so many decisions to make and options to consider; sometimes all of the choices can be overwhelming or paralyzing...

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Are you over-thinking it?

If we were to slow down our lives and take notice of the gear we shift into when facing a challenge, more often than not, we would notice that we tend to use intellect to solve problems. While this may appear to be the best solution, what we are actually doing is thinking about things as a way of not feeling—otherwise known as the process of intellectualization. The person who...

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The Psychology of Giving

Posted by Michelle Frank on Dec 14, 2012 in News, Self-Care, Self-Esteem, Wellness

“It is not what we give, but what we share, for the gift without the giver is bare” ~James Russell Lowell One could easily argue that the holiday season has lost significance amidst the chaotic marketing push of the ritual of gift giving and subsequent hopes for a holiday economic boom. Waves of greed, materialism, and selfish desires seem to radiate from every sale rack. The mere...

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Ending the War Inside

Posted by Cara McCanse on Dec 5, 2012 in Body Image, Eating Disorders, Self-Esteem, Therapy

Self-esteem is the value we put on everything that contributes to who we are. It is how we think and feel about our personality, successes, values, and how we perform in relation to others. So often clients say that they have low self-esteem. However, they voice confidence in their job performance or role as a parent or friend. What they don’t like is their weight, or how their arms look, or...

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Spirituality and Your Therapist

Posted by Amy Zurawic on Nov 18, 2012 in Spirituality, Therapy

Our spiritual beliefs and values infuse our everyday life because they offer us a framework within which we see ourselves, as well as the choices we make. No spirituality on Earth assumes that a person follows each tenet perfectly; in fact, all spiritual beliefs leave room for grace and understanding when the complicated nature of life makes it difficult to navigate ahead. However, sometimes a...

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The Stigma of Rehab

Posted by Amy Ponce on Sep 13, 2012

This month, the Center for Personal Development welcomes Amy Ponce of Chicago’s Hazelden rehabilitation services as our featured guest blogger. Amy writes about the stigma that is too often associated with rehabilitation and addiction treatment services: _______ If you dropped in on a group session for alcoholics and addicts, who do you think will be sitting next to you? Is it the...

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How do we let go of the day?

Posted by Katie Crofton on May 31, 2012 in Self-Care, Sleep, Wellness

When our body tells us we are hungry or thirsty, we typically respond and nourish ourselves accordingly. We do not need to do much of anything by way of breathing, because our trusty autonomic nervous system has that part covered. Yet, when it comes to sleep, we often fight the cues that tell us we are in need of rest. With all the health and wellness research out there, we are well aware that...

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Summer Soul Care

Posted by Cara McCanse on May 31, 2012 in Self-Care, Stress, Wellness

There is something about summertime, and in particular summertime in Chicago, which brings a renewed sense of hope and energy into our lives, shaking us from the winter doldrums and making everything seem a little more bearable. The city seems to come to life and you feel a pressure to take advantage of everything it has to offer. This perhaps self-imposed and perhaps city-imposed pressure...

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Are You Ready?

Posted by Steven Nakisher on May 24, 2012 in Therapy

I often hear people ask, “Why do people typically see a therapist?” Personally, I wonder why people don’t see a therapist. Who couldn’t benefit from having an objective professional listen, understand, reflect, and potentially offer solutions that could change your life? Most people would say that they want to change something in their life, but do they really? We are creatures of...

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