I often hear people ask, “Why do people typically see a therapist?” Personally, I wonder why people don’t see a therapist. Who couldn’t benefit from having an objective professional listen, understand, reflect, and potentially offer solutions that could change your life? Most people would say that they want to change something in their life, but do they really? We are creatures of habit. We love doing the same things again and again out of comfort. Ironically, the “same thing” is often painful and not in our best interest. Why do we convince ourself to keep doing things that don’t work, yet we tell ourself that it will make us feel better, when it is clearly a lie? Why can’t we face the fact that we lying to ourselves so often? I hear this often, “Even though he never pays attention to me and I don’t really trust him, I stay in this relationship because he really is a good guy who cares about me and loves me.” How many of us come to later realize that we stayed in the relationship because we were terrified that if we left our current relationship, we’d be alone for the rest of our lives.
Why do we get in our own way so often? Why are people so smart, but for whatever reason, we consistently make choices that are bad for ourselves?
What’s getting in your way? Is it time to stop the madness? Of course therapy is difficult. If it was easy, you wouldn’t need help and you would do it yourself.
Are you ready for change? Even if there isn’t anything seriously wrong, when people are out of balance, it can feel absolutely terrible. 98% of your body can be doing fine, but when you have a sore throat, that 2% can make you feel terrible. Is your life off track? Do you want a better job, a more satisfying relationship, a better body, or do you just want to stop being so judgmental toward yourself?
Change takes courage and commitment. Are you ready to face the truth and do something nice for yourself? When is the last time you actually did something nice for yourself? Now answer that question honestly.