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Relationship Therapy: Developing Healthy Relationships, Leaving Bad Relationships

Love Addiction consists of three components: Romance, Relationship and Sexual Addiction.

Love addiction is often perceived to be "less serious" than other process addictions i.e. compulsive sexual addictions, eating disorders or self-harm / mutilation addictions. Maybe it’s because it sounds "softer", but in reality it is extremely painful, and can be very dangerous to both the addict and their partners. Many suicides, murders, stalking, rapes and other crimes of passion have their roots in this addiction. Our culture has traditionally glorified love addiction with the notion that we fall in love and live "happily ever after." This ignores the groundwork that relationships require. Many love relationships depicted in the media are really love-addicted relationships.

Relationships play an important role in our lives. Living a balanced life with healthy relationships is an important part to your progress. Let our professional therapists work with you to uncover the roots of your love addiction.

Signs and Characteristics of Love Addiction:

• Lack of nurturing and attention when young
• Feeling isolated, detached from parents and family
• Compartmentalization of relationships from other areas of life
• Outer facade of "having it all together" to hide internal disintegration
• Mistake intensity for intimacy (drama driven relationships)
• Hidden Pain
• Seek to avoid rejection and abandonment at any cost
• Afraid to trust anyone in a relationship
• Inner rage over lack of nurturing, early abandonment
• Depressed
• Highly manipulative and controlling of others
• Perceive attraction, attachment, and sex as basic human needs, on a par with food and water
• Sense of worthlessness without a relationship or partner
• Feelings that a relationship makes one whole, or more of a man or woman
• Escalating tolerance for high-risk behavior
• Intense need to control self, others, circumstances
• Presence of other addictive or compulsive problems
• Insatiable appetite in area of difficulty (sex, love or attachment / need)
• Using others, sex & relationships to alter mood or relieve emotional pain
• Continual questioning of values and lifestyle
• Driven, desperate, frantic personality
• Confusion of sexual attraction with love ("Love" at first sight)
• Tendency to trade sexual activity for "love" or attachment
• Existence of a secret "double life"
• Refusal to acknowledge existence of problem
• Defining out-of-control behavior as normal
• Defining "wants" as "needs"
• Tendency to leave one relationship for another (inability to be without a relationship)
• Attempts to replace lost relationships with a new one immediately

Many of these symptoms are also elements of codependency and intimacy dysfunctions resulting from childhood abandonment, emotional and / or sexual abuse. For this reason treatment and therapy for Love Addiction often includes trauma recovery work.

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